I hate men because of my deadbeat babyfather

I totally get being mad. He sounds like absolute trash, and it makes total sense that you would associate those bad feelings with all guys right now. When someone hurts you that badly, your brain just wants to protect you from ever feeling that way again. It’s like a defense mechanism, and honestly, he deserves for you to be mad at him.

But you can’t let one awful guy ruin every other guy for you. That’s giving him way too much power over your life. My dad is pretty cool, and my friends’ dads are nice too, so I know good men exist. You just picked a really bad apple, and unfortunately, you have a baby with him, which makes him impossible to totally ignore.

You gotta let the hate go eventually, not for him, but for you and your kid. Carrying around that much anger is just going to make you miserable and stressed out. Take a break from dating guys if you need to, but don’t close your heart off forever. Focus on your baby, heal up, and maybe one day you’ll see that not everyone is like your deadbeat ex.